Gossiping and talking about someone behind their back is a clear sign of jealousy. If you find out from others that your sister in law is doing just that then that's another clear sign of a competitive nature. You may find that talks badly about you in front of you as well.
Here are tips to help you start liking a difficult sister-in-law.Find Something You Have in Common. ... Ask Her a Lot of Questions. ... Choose Your Battles. ... Find a Buffer. ... Give Her a Wedding Task to Handle.
Cope Better recommends that you be assertive. Telling your sister-in-law about her behavior is enough to put boundaries in place. A strong person doesn't make anyone play with them. Such a person will have no tolerance for a controlling individual (like your sister-in-law).
9 Signs You Might Have a Toxic Sister (Plus, How to Deal)9 Signs You Have a Toxic Sister.She *Has* to Be Right. ... She's Manipulative. ... She Doesn't Respect Boundaries. ... She Insists on Playing the Victim. ... Her Apologies Are Never Sincere. ... Everything Is a Competition. ... Spending Time with Her Is Draining.More items...•
Look to yourself first.Stay silent and there's a risk she just thinks you're dumb, awed by her or chewed up with resentment. ... Argue and she probably thinks her brother/sister has married an angry, resentful and bitter so-and-so who hates her and will do anything to come between her and her brother/sister.
Here's how to create a more balanced sense of power:Take a few emotional steps back. Realize what she's doing to you is, for the most part, not personal. ... Be a role model. ... Acknowledge her feelings even when she won't. ... Help her see you really do want to understand.
In-laws who are toxic tend to take any situation as an excuse to react negatively, make a scene, or put you on the defensive. “Toxic in-laws react negatively to almost anything,” says Lynell Ross, a certified health and wellness coach.
As someone who has been labeled as the “annoying, selfish, lazy” etc. sister, don't judge her without knowing what is going on mentally, obviously set boundaries, and know when to say no, but don't think you have the right to judge her. You don't know what she is dealing with that she isn't telling you.
Here's a simple guide on how to establish and maintain a good relationship with your sister-in-law.Spend some quality time together. ... Give her a gift. ... Congratulating on her special day. ... Be her friend. ... Ask for her advice. ... Make compliments but not too much. ... Stay close but create boundaries. ... Be helpful.More items...
With toxic siblings, your brother or sister is never wrong. If you notice your sibling blames others for their own mistakes or faults, is constantly deflecting, and lacks the self-awareness necessary to take responsibility for their own actions, Lozano says there are major red flags.
Humans tend to put emotional or physical distance between themselves and the people who cause bad feelings. If your sister is jealous, she might withdraw or shut down when you are around. She might refuse to make plans with you, avoid serious conversations or even walk out of a room when you walk in.
Originally Answered: Why is my sister so mean to me? She's probably jealous because you get all the attention, better gifts, that sort of stuff. It may not really feel like you're regarded as the better sister but that's what she believes. It could be narcissism at its best.