my ex keep sending me letter when told by my lawyer not to contact me

You are certainly free to send a letter requesting that the person no longer contact you. You might put in the letter that you would consider any further contact to be harassment and will seek criminal charges or a restraining order for harassment. If contact continues, you should see a magistrate about obtaining a restraining order.

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Will My Ex have to pay for replies to solicitors letters?

Your ex will have to pay for each reply that is read by a solicitor. The note that you may bring it up in hearings will be a reminder to the solicitor that this isn't helpful and I am sure the kind qualified people on here will tell you if I have it wrong. It may be a wake up call to them. Each letter is a slight dent in the bank balance.

How do I get my Ex to stop contacting me?

Answered on Nov 15th, 2012 at 3:23 AM You could send them a letter, perhaps from a lawyer (either certified mail or delivered by a process server) telling them to stop contacting you or you will be forced to seek legal remedies.

Can I send a letter to someone to stop contacting me?

Answered on Nov 14th, 2012 at 3:45 PM You are certainly free to send a letter requesting that the person no longer contact you. You might put in the letter that you would consider any further contact to be harassment and will seek criminal charges or a restraining order for harassment.

Is it legal to write a letter from an ex spouse?

Letters from (ex-) spouses, angry neighbors, irritating co-workers, or attorneys do not usually have legal significance. The letter itself has no power, unless you give it power. Often, it is emotional venting aimed at relieving the writer’s anxiety.

Why did my ex tell me not to contact her anymore?

You’d think that if anyone should propose not speaking anymore, it’s the dumpee. The dumpee gets rejected, hurt, and disrespected, so he should tell her ex to stay out of contact, right?

What to do when your ex tells you not to talk to her anymore?

When your ex tells you not to contact her again, there is only what thing left to do – don’t contact her again. This shouldn’t come as a surprise as a resentful ex can make your life difficult. She can attack you when you’re the most vulnerable and prevent your self-esteem from getting back to where it should be.

Will she contact me or is it over forever?

I don’t want to give anyone false hope, but exes often reach out. They don’t know that their behavior is hurting their ex, so they continue to confuse their ex and string him or her along for months or years.

What to do if someone won't leave you alone?

If the person won't leave you alone after you send your letter, you can send a second one repeating your first request and adding that you demand him or her to stop harassing you. After that, a call to the police and/or a civil harassment suit and request for a restraining order might be advisable.

What is a cease and desist letter?

A cease and desist letter from an attorney can often work to get the harasser to take you seriously. The letter should lay out the legal options if the harassment doesn't stop, including a restraining order. Report Abuse. Report Abuse.

Can you threaten a bill collector?

If it's a bill collector, there are laws regarding such contact. If it's an ordinary person, you can threaten to get a restraining order. You would have to prove a pattern of harassment by email, telephone calls or otherwise.

Can you send a letter to a person who no longer contacts you?

You are certainly free to send a letter requesting that the person no longer contact you. You might put in the letter that you would consider any further contact to be harassment and will seek criminal charges or a restraining order for harassment. If contact continues, you should see a magistrate about obtaining a restraining order.

What to do if you get further emails?

A confident-sounding person is less likely to be challenged with further emails. If you get further emails, you can ignore them, if you have already sufficiently addressed the inaccurate information. If you need to respond again, keep it even briefer and do not emotionally engage.

How to respond to a letter of criticism?

This will reduce the chances of a prolonged and angry back and forth. The more you write, the more material the other person has to criticize. Keeping it brief signals that you don’t wish to get into a dialogue. Just make your response and end your letter.

Why respond to hostile mail?

The main reason to respond to hostile mail is to correct inaccurate statements which might be seen by others . “Just the facts” is a good idea. Focus on the accurate statements you want to make, not on the inaccurate statements the other person made.

How to write in anger?

While you may be tempted to write in anger, you are more likely to achieve your goals by writing in a friendly manner. Consciously thinking about a friendly response will increase your chances of getting a friendly — or neutral — response in return. If your goal is to end the conflict, then being friendly has the greatest likelihood of success. Don’t give the other person a reason to get defensive and keep responding.

How to avoid conflict with a friend?

Avoid sarcasm. Avoid threats. Avoid personal remarks about the other’s intelligence, ethics or moral behavior. If the other person has a “high conflict personality,” you will have no success in reducing the conflict with personal attacks.

Do you need a response to a hostile email?

Much of hostile e-communication does not need a response. Letters from (ex-) spouses, angry neighbors, irritating co-workers, or attorneys do not usually have legal significance. The letter itself has no power, unless you give it power. Often, it is emotional venting aimed at relieving the writer’s anxiety.

Do you respond to an inaccurate statement?

In most cases, you are better off not responding. However, some letters and emails develop power when copies are filed in a court or complaint process — or simply get sent to other people. In these cases, it may be important to respond to inaccurate statements with accurate statements of fact.

When should an attorney contact you?

Your attorney will contact you when he/she needs something from you. There are periods in every case where nothing is going on and there is down time. Your attorney should give you periodic updates on the status of things and it's ok to check in yourself, but daily calls are unnecessary and only run up your bill.

What happens when you retain a lawyer?

When you retain a lawyer, whether for a divorce or another issue, the lawyer is ethically charged with holding what you say to him/her as confidential.

Why do divorce attorneys work hard?

Divorce attorneys work hard to achieve favorable and fair results for their clients. Good clients appreciate the effort, even if things don't always work out the way they hoped. Many clients are never happy, win or lose, and are not afraid to let their attorney know it.

What should an attorney tell you?

Here are five things your attorney really wants to tell you, but doesn't because he wants to maintain the relationship and keep you as a client. You're better off knowing this though because it will influence your relationship with your lawyer and the value he/she provides to you. Advertisement. 1. You call too often.

Do attorneys charge hourly?

Most attorneys charge on an hourly basis, which is stated in your retainer agreement. Clients pay for an attorney's time. Your attorney is not your therapist, although I play one on t.v. I always tell clients I will talk to you as long as you want, but don't be surprised when you get the bill.

Do divorce attorneys get paid?

Attorneys are not free. They get paid for provide you with their time, knowledge and services. Now, it's often the case in a divorce that money is tight and most attorneys are sensitive to this, but they have to pay their bills too and can't work for free. You can't expect them to work for free.

Can an attorney make it rain?

Your attorney can only work with what you tell him and what documents you give him to back up what you tell him. He cannot make it rain when the sun is out if you know what I mean.

Why does my ex not respond to my texts?

Your ex has other things going on. The second reason why your ex does not respond to your texts is because of things that are going on in their life. I know that when your ex doesn’t respond to you, it’s pretty common to think (or ask)….

Why won't my ex text me?

Another common reason why people’s ex won’t text back is when they go on vacation and they’re like, “Well, my ex stopped responding to my texts because he’s off sailing through the Greek islands (or somewhere).”.

Why doesn't my ex respond to text messages?

1. Emotional reactance. Now, the number one reason why a lot of people’s exes do not respond to them after a breakup is because of reactance. I’ve talked about reactance in many ...

Why do people react to their ex?

Often, people’s exes have this state of reactance towards them because they think that their ex wants to get back together.

Why do people think you need to use your ex?

Because your ex might suspect that you have a hidden agenda, they might think that you want to use them as a means to an end— to get a relationship, a girlfriend , a boyfriend , a commitment or something like that. They might think that you are using them as a stepping-stone to get that thing.

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