If your daughter asks for marriage advice, consider asking her what her options are. Don’t advise her to leave her husband, or stay in the relationship, or talk to her kids about their future. Instead, engage her in a conversation about the options. Encourage her to talk to a marriage therapist or even a legal advocate.
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Aug 05, 2015 · If your daughter looks at you weird, be honest. Say, "I read something on the internet that said if I love you and want to bond with you, I should ask about you. So, I love you and want to be close, so I am asking about you. I'm sorry this seems so weird to you; I should have done it more all along."
Feb 25, 2018 · Do not talk to other family members about your son’s wife. Do not expect them to do things your way. Ring and book a time to visit, just do not arrive on the doorstep. Take and interest and do ...
No, it just makes it different. Even if you did live in very straightened circumstances, telling your DIL about them as though she ought to be more grateful for her own life won't make her appreciative. Tell her about your early married years as a shared experience, rather than as a lesson. You shouldn't let your children watch so much TV
Aug 27, 2012 · Ask God specifically to soften your daughter-in-law’s heart so that she would be willing to forgive. Also pray and ask God to show you specifically your sin against her. Perhaps you didn’t think you did anything wrong at the time or you didn’t see it as a big deal but apparently she has taken great offense to what you did and is not able to let it go.
Building a positive relationship is something that you'll need to work on, however much you'd like it to blossom overnight. Your relationship with your daughter-in-law will depend on a multitude of factors such as: 1 Her own family situation (especially if she isn't close to her mother/has never had a mother figure). 2 Your willingness to open yourself up and to trust her, and vice versa. 3 The geographical distance between the two of you. 4 How close you are to your own child (her partner). 5 Whether or not you're a grandparent. 6 Any previous conflict.
It may not be wise to smother her with affection or, equally, be stand-offish, but letting her know that you're a non-judgemental, listening ear and around when needed will help her to build up trust in you as a mother-in-law and encourage her to return the favour.
Self-awareness is key to building and maintaining relationships of any kind, so be mindful of how you behave and express yourself, and what you may need to work on as an individual. This may be difficult if you find yourself disagreeing with your daughter-in-law, no matter the situation, but knowing yourself and knowing when to take a step back are important skills to possess.
The sad truth is that this is the way life unfolds and it is a natural, necessary process. We cannot change this and must accept it. The good part is our son will always have a place in his heart for us and he will always love us.
Transformation is difficult. However, life is not over and when we get through the thickets we see relief and a new existence unfolds. Like the butterfly, we must peel off the cocoon to make life alterations. We fear this because even new changes are difficult to cope with.
Besides the obvious problem of it being a somewhat rude question, DILs like to feel in control in their own households. Being questioned on a habit they've had their entire married lives can be bewildering and hurtful.
Unless she has asked for your advice, your DIL doesn't really need to hear your opinion. She has her own sources she turns to when she has questions and if one of those isn't you, don't invite yourself to the party. Wait patiently to be asked before offering advice.
Though you'll never stop loving your son or forget his best friend's name from elementary school, your DIL won't appreciate it if you take every opportunity to prove you know your son better. The fact is, she might know him better than you do now, and you'll only embarrass yourself (and him) by reciting childhood preferences.
When grandchildren come into the picture, you'll want to step even more carefully than before. Never give your DIL the idea you don't like the way she parents her children (unless, of course, it is actually harmful). And insinuating you know something about her child she doesn't is hurtful.
Yes, things were different when you were first married, but does that necessarily make life harder? No, it just makes it different. Even if you did live in very straightened circumstances, telling your DIL about them as though she ought to be more grateful for her own life won't make her appreciative.
Again, this and other similar choices are personal parenting decisions that you don't really have any say in. How your grandchildren are raised is up to your son and DIL, and any pointed pieces of unsolicited advice from you won't be welcomed and will only further ostracize your influence.
Criticizing your son, even playfully, can be very insulting to your DIL. After all, she was the one who chose him as her mate, and she'll be understandably defensive of her lifelong companion and friend. Any constructive criticism you have should be given to him directly, if at all.
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When hiring an attorney, a potential money pit is “expenses” outside of the lawyer’s billable hours. Expenses include everything—copying and faxing costs, hiring expert witnesses, and even traveling via private jet, points out attorney Justin C. Roberts. Some lawyers don’t just pass the charges along; instead, they charge an additional percentage fee. Whatever their method, you need to know it up front so there won’t be any surprises when the bill arrives.
When my friend left her husband, she didn’t want any help or support from her mother. In fact, she didn’t even tell her mom that her marriage was troubled or ending. She didn’t want to have that talk with her mother because she was ashamed, afraid, and sad.
Treating your daughter like the adult she is will protect your relationship with her, your son in law, and your grandchildren. If you find healthy boundaries and ways to support your daughter as she works through her marriage problems, you potentially strengthen your mother-daughter relationship.